Q. I got my job through a friend of a friend (Amanda). I would never have gotten the job without her help. Now I’ve been on the job for 18 months. An internal opportunity was posted. I want to try for it, but Amanda told me she is also going out for the job. Should I steer clear?
A. Talk with Amanda. Tell her that you understand she is applying for the promotion, and you would like to defer to her wishes. If she wants you to steer clear, then do. That’s only if you care about the friendship. If you don’t care, go ahead and apply.